Hi again! I told you I would try and dedicate more time to you. Right now I am in a very introspective mood which tends to make me want to write so lucky you, you’re getting another Blournal entry from me!
So the blournal topic today is talk about this season of your life which I am excited to address. Right now I am in an interesting season of life. I feel like I am in this purgatory of my life. I am done with college, and have entered the young professional world. I am learning the process of adulating which I realize many things and lessons in my life have led up to this. I am a 24 year old single gal with no prospects in sight, I own my house, two puppies and work a full time plus job. Work has taken over my life. Where I had a lot of variety during my school days with school, and working multiple part time jobs, I now have one main focus. Work. And sadly, it rules my life. I go to bed thinking about it, don’t sleep well because I have dreams of it, and I wake up thinking about it. Anxious for what the day holds, most often, ready to tackle whatever it is and prove that single gals can make it just as well.
The interesting part of it is that where I am, it seems that most people around my age are either already married, engaged or dating. There are very few people that I seem to run into that are in a similar stage of life as me which makes connecting with people around me difficult. I already have difficulty opening myself to people, but when there seems to be nothing in common it makes it even more difficult. It’s kind of an awkward phase of life because everyone thinks you SHOULD be actively looking for someone if you don’t have someone. Older people think that because I am a single young woman, I either have droves of men at my door knocking each other over to take me on a date (sorry, that is not the case! If it were I probably wouldn’t be single right now, just saying!) or I just haven’t put myself out there enough (which is probably true). Married/dating peeps think it is their job to set me up with that single guy friend that they just KNOW would be perfect for me! No offense to y’all, but I think I have been set up three or four times and those have exploded in everyone’s face so please, if you are trying to set your single friend/sister/brother up with someone. Don’t. Unless they come to you asking you, chances are they just feel like poop when you suggest they date so-and-so.
So my life is this purgatory of no boyfriend and no one in sight. Work rules my life. I don’t have much of a social life because of it. And very few people who seem to be in this same purgatory. I know others are going through it, I am not saying this is a me only problem, and that I don’t have other friends who are going through it. I do have other friends who know my feelings on this, but people forget to tell you about this possibility when you finish college.
Do I hate this season of life? Ehh I wouldn’t go that far. I would say that I am learning a lot through this season.
First off, friends are indispensable. Whether you have friends in town or out of town they are some of the only people that make you keep your sanity. It helps to have friends in town, but no matter where your friends are, they keep you sane!
Second, family is BAE. Okay, so I hate that word oh so much, I believe it is either the swedish word for poop or an acronym for Before All Else. Either way I think it can fit 😉 JK but really, family is another thing that you can’t live without during this phase. They are the only ones who TRULY TRULY TRULY know who you are and will hopefully never hate you for your struggles or your complaints. They’re your foundation to life and the ones that you know will tell you that you’re being completely melodramatic with something, or they’ll take your side. Either way, I don’t think I could’ve survived and cannot continue to survive without mine.
Third, work is not BAE. It might be poop somedays, or even most days (depending on your job), but it does not come before all else. Yeah, you need a paycheck and you definitely need to work hard and prove that you are capable of the responsibility given you. But when you leave the work place, leave the work place. Work does not belong in the home, on the couch. It should stay on your desk. Bringing work home with you makes it hard to learn when to be present with the people you love and will turn you into a work-a-holic. Believe me, I am one. And I struggle everyday with this. So don’t be me.
Fourthly, if you’re single, be freaking single! Don’t let people around you tell you that you need a significant other to be significant. That is not a necessity for a girl or a guy. Enjoy your single days, months, years because one day, there is a possibility you won’t be able to go out with your girlfriends/guyfriends on a whim. Not saying that is a bad thing, just saying being single has it’s own set of pros and cons, just like having a SO does. Just take advantage of those pros while you can and don’t dwell on the cons because in hindsight, those cons will probably seem stupid (at least thats what I keep telling myself).
Be spontaneous and just enjoy life. We are not given repeats or pauses in life. It is a never ending cycle of days. The idea of being sentenced to a 9-5 for the rest of my life with a possibility of probation around retirement is a depressing thought. But don’t let yourself get bogged down with those thoughts. Put in your time and take advantage of those hours between. Because once the stop button is hit there is no restarting our lives. That is the end of a story and it is your choice whether it is a beautiful movie or a depressing drama. Enjoy the comedy, suspense, romance, of it all and let the drama fall by the wayside.
Okay, so that is what I am learning/feeling with this season/chapter of life (cliche, I am sorry!). Whatever the season of your life is, I hope you take full advantage of it, because seasons might repeat, but chapters don’t. Adios muchachos! XOXO